Melihat Jendela Hati

"Melihat Jendela Hati" Buku ini bertutur tentang berbagai pengalaman keseharian hidup, lengkap dengan segala suka dukanya. Pengalaman sehari-hari yang dihadapi oleh mereka yang hidup atau bekerja di kota metropolitan seperti Jakarta. Rutinitas sehari-hari yang bagi sebagian orang berlalu sebagai kejadian biasa tanpa makna, dalam buku ini menjadi kisah yang memikat, menyentuh, inspiratif dan kadang membuat Anda tersenyum.

Terdapat sebanyak 99 kisah yang dapat membuat Anda dicerahkan sehingga dapat menemukan inspirasi dan harapannya masing-masing. Dengan inspirasi, seseorang dapat bertumbuh dan berkembang berdasarkan pengalaman hidup yang telah dijalani. Sedangkan harapan mengijinkan langkah yang lebih ringan untuk hari esok.



Melihat Jendela Hati bertutur tentang berbagai pengalaman keseharian hidup, lengkap dengan segala suka dukanya. Terdapat sebanyak 99 kisah yang dapat membuat Anda dicerahkan.

A Valediction Forbidding Mourning

John Donne (1633)

As virtuous men pass mildly away,
And whisper to their souls, to go,
Whilst some of their sad friends do say,
“The breath goes now,” and some say, “No:”

So let us melt, and make no noise,
No tear-floods, nor sigh-tempests move;
’Twere profanation of our joys
To tell the laity our love.

Moving of th’ earth brings harms and fears;
Men reckon what it did, and meant;
But trepidation of the spheres,
Though greater far, is innocent.

Dull sublunary lovers’ love
(Whose soul is sense) cannot admit
Absence, because it doth remove
Those things which elemented it.

But we by a love so much refin’d,
That ourselves know not what it is,
Inter-assured of the mind,
Care less, eyes, lips, and hands to miss.

Our two souls therefore, which are one,
Though I must go, endure not yet
A breach, but an expansion,
Like gold to airy thinness beat.

If they be two, they are two so
As stiff twin compasses are two;
Thy soul, the fix’d foot, makes no show
To move, but doth, if the’ other do.

And though it in the centre sit,
Yet when the other far doth roam,
It leans, and hearkens after it,
And grows erect, as that comes home.

Such wilt thou be to me, who must
Like th’ other foot, obliquely run;
Thy firmness makes my circle just,
And makes me end, where I begun.


source: http://poetry.about.com/library/weekly/bldonnelove.htm

Romance

Romantic love is a relative term, that distinguishes moments and situations within interpersonal relationships. There is often, initially, more emphasis on the emotions than on physical pleasure. Romantic love, in the abstract sense of the term, generally involves a mix of emotional and sexual desire for another as a person. However, Lisa Diamond, a University of Utah psychology professor, proposes that sexual desire and romantic love are functionally independent, and also, as an additional claim to the topic, that romantic love is not intrinsically oriented to same-gender or other-gender partners; and that the links between love and desire are bidirectional. Furthermore, Diamond does not state that one's sex has priority over another sex in romantic love, because as already mentioned Diamond's theory seems to purport the idea that it is possible for someone who is heterosexual to fall in love with someone of the same gender, and for someone who is homosexual to fall in love with someone of a different gender. Yet, within an existing relationship romantic love can be defined as a temporary freeing or optimizing of intimacy, either in a particularly luxurious manner (or the opposite as in the "natural"), or perhaps in greater spirituality, irony, or peril to the relationship. In other words, marriage is in conflict with romance--despite being combined to some degree, they are at odds with each other. Shakespeare in some of his plays, and Tolstoy and many others in their novels show this.^[1]

"Then plainly know my heart's dear love is set On the fair daughter of rich Capulet: As mine on hers, so hers is set on mine; And all combined, save what thou must combine By holy marriage: when and where and how We met, we woo'd and made exchange of vow, I'll tell thee as we pass; but this I pray, That thou consent to marry us to-day." --Romeo and Juliet, Act II, Scene II --by William Shakespear

Therefore, ''romantic love'' may also be classified according to two categories, "popular romance" and "divine"(or "spiritual") romance. '''Popular romance''' may include but is not limited to the following types: idealistic, normal intense (such as the emotional aspect of "falling in love"), predictable as well as unpredictable, consuming (meaning consuming of time, energy and emotional withdrawls and bids), intense but out of control (such as the aspect of "falling out of love") material and commercial (such as societal gain mentioned in a later section of this article), physical and sexual, grand and demonstrative. '''Divine (or spiritual) romance''' may include, but is not limited to realistic, as well as plausible unrealistic, optimistic as well as pessemistic (depending upon the particular beliefs held by each person within the relationship), abiding (e.g. the theory that each person had a predetermined stance as an agent of choice; such as "choosing a husband" or "choosing a soulmate."), non-abiding (e.g. the theory that we do not choose our actions, and therefore our romantic love involvment has been drawn from sources outside of ourselves), predictable as well as unpredictable, self control (such as obedience and sacrifice within the context of the relationship) or lack therof (such as disobedience within the context of the relationship), emotional and personal, soulful (in the theory that the mind, soul, and body, are one connected entity), intimate, and infinite (such as the idea that a god or God's love is or could be everlasting, if particular religious beliefs were in fact, true.) (Reference material: Romance In Marriage: Perspectives, Pitfalls, and Principles Jason S. Carroll http://ce.byu.edu/cw/cwfamily/archives/2003/Carroll.Jason.pdf)


source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romantic_love